In one to post on his Facebook page (named for his now-gone blog, Shiny and sauceJenna Karvunidis did everything she could to let people know about the sex party now that her daughter is 10 years old. "TWIST PLOT," said Karavunidis. The baby of this revealing party of the kind has become "a girl who wears a suit!"
"Who cares what sex is the baby?" Karvunidis said. "I was doing it at the time because we were not living in 2019 and did not know what we knew now: the focus on gender at birth leaves a lot of potential and talent that have nothing to do with what lies between their legs. "
In a Facebook message with Mashable, Karvunidis said his daughter helped to educate him about gender. "She's more gender-oriented than me, I'm just giving her the example."
Karvunidis decided to talk about it after a thread on Twitter connects her to the history of the parties revealing the genre. In her article on Facebook, Karvunidis explained that she had organized a party revealing the genre for her daughter in 2008, which she told on her blog and in a parenting forum, before doing so. Discussed in a Chicago edition of the The bump.
She had a blog that had been picked up by a Chicago newspaper. In 2008, when she had her first baby, she made yellow cupcakes. One with a pink icing, a blue one. Gave a friend information on ultrasound, asked in an envelope, asked a friend to take the right cake in the refrigerator
– There are children in concentration camps (@ADubiousPronoun) July 25, 2019
Thank you, yes I have "invented" the genre revelation in July 2008 and this has been picked up in Bump Magazine and is a bit prevalent from there. I had mixed feelings about my contribution to culture. PLOT TWIST: The first girl in the world revealed by the genre wears costumes! Exhibit A: pic.twitter.com/jh5Hf3vFAp
– Jenna K (@HighGlossSauce) July 25, 2019
The parties revealing the genre began to gain ground around 2009 and have since exploded. Although they may have started with things like cakes of different colors, they have become complex challenges: people have used everything from fireworks to live alligators share the sex of their babies. But as Karvunidis mentioned, they were critical to perpetuate binary views of the genre.
"I have had mixed feelings about my random contribution to culture," said Karvunidis.
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Rainbows are everywhere: in clothes shop, sure public storefrontsand almost all brand logos on Twitter. And while some of the benefits of the specialty Pride merchandise go to reputable non-profit organizations, other brands make derisory donations and some products are simply used to generate additional profits. (It should also be noted that many companies who place their marks with rainbows for Pride make important donations politicians who actively oppose LGBTQ rights.)
Then there is the merch and branding that takes right at the stage as well far. Either these products are too tacky for the public, or the brands themselves are too hypocritical to be involved.
As a weird person, I will be the first to admit that I love too much earth tones to be able to wear something rainbow. Nevertheless, I'm comfortable with some rainbow clothes, like a rainbow t-shirt, for example. Then there is the rainbow merch that takes it too far, as weird. Although I have faced discrimination over and over during my life to be a queer, I have always felt accepted by the Seltzer community and I have never really needed soft drinks for to be my ally.
If brands are to participate in Pride Month, they must set artistic boundaries. Some products are too bland and should never be labeled weird, while elsewhere, some products are too rainbow for the human eye.
Here are some of the most crazy Pride products and brands from 2019. Although some of these products have been published in previous years, they have all been published or reissued this year and deserve the public's attention.
Between the ban trans people from the military, naming a crowd of federal judges who oppose LGBTQ rights and are trying to eliminate protections For transgender people housed in homeless shelters, the Trump administration has defined a distinctly anti-LGBTQ program. It is particularly infuriating to see the Trump campaign market this $ 35 hats as they overthrow queer and trans rights.
And frankly, from an aesthetic point of view, it's way too much color for a hat. Do better, designers of Trump campaign hats. The products of this hat do not even go to non-profit organizations.
As a weird person, I have always felt comfortable enough to navigate the glittering water community. I have not yet been personally rejected by Perrier or Pellegrino. I do not know why Bubly decided to market their products for Pride, but here they are.
At least Bubly You have decided to partner with the Stonewall Community Foundation, which offers grants, training and scholarship opportunities to the LGBTQ community. A pack of 18 x 12-ounce cans is available on Amazon for $ 10.44.
When the Listerine mouthwash released its antiseptic Pride this spring, Queer Twitter Naturally broke out and accused the brand of pimping the company. I am gay and I absolutely do not need any mouthwash to accept me.
Congratulations to Listerine's parent company, Johnson & Johnson, for at least running its Care with Pride program, to which you have spent more than $ 1 million: LGBTQ non-profit since 2011.
LGBT: "It would be nice if people could stop mistreating us when we held hands in public, we could teach LGBT classes in schools and if the BBC could stop debating our live existence, it would really be pity."
Capitalism: "What we really feel here is that you want your own sandwich" pic.twitter.com/uIixEel2pq
– Louis Staples (@LouisStaples) May 3, 2019
British grocery chain Marks & Spencer (M & S) launched this sandwich in the spring, sparking a hilarious uproar on Twitter. Frankly, I am a little disappointed that the brand has not done more to integrate the Q part of LGBTQ. The chain could have easily incorporated a treat of all time, cheese, sandwich.
However, you think of the sandwich, M & S is nonetheless donating £ 20,000 to akt, non-profit organizations for UK LGBTQ homeless youth, and £ 1,000 to BeLonG To Youth Services, which serves LGBTQ youth in Ireland.
As a person who really prefers cheap and tasteless beers, I have nothing against Budweiser. But Budweiser has defeated pride this year. The Budweiser UK account has tweeted photos of various stylized bottles for the different identities that make up the LGBTQ community, including: bisexuals, pansexuals and asexual people. American Budweiser introduced to the collection of rainbow bottles.
Anheuser-Busch will donate for every Bud Light rainbow bottle sold $ 1 to GLAAD, one of the largest LGBTQ non-profit organizations in the country.
We are excited to announce that we are now proud to sponsor Pride in London! We work closely with them and our charity partners to celebrate the diversity of the LGBT + and Fly the Flag community for everyone at the #PrideJubilee
A foretaste of what there is to eat … pic.twitter.com/g1FYlXqJJk
– Budweiser UK (@BudweiserUK) May 31, 2019
It was all too well done.
Growing goth in adolescence, I was attached to my pair of black Dr. Martens. And honestly, I'm sorry the brand has chosen such a dynamic aesthetic to celebrate LGBTQ pride. They could have found another way to recognize the month of pride without compromising their credibility. These shoes, among other Pride products, are available for $ 145 on the brand 's website.
Dr. Martens will donate a portion of this shoe's product to Trevor Project, a non-profit organization that provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ youth.
I congratulate American Apparel for donating 100% of the proceeds from their Pride collection to Los Angeles LGBT Center. I just can not get over this weird t-shirt that they've already sold but that they've incorporated into their Pride Month collection, which includes the following words banned by Centers for Disease Control and Prevention: diversity, transgender, evidence-based, science-based, fetus, right and vulnerable.
Still, this shirt is available for the relatively affordable price of $ 24.
This month of pride, Abercrombie & Fitch will donate to the Trevor Project the proceeds from its Pride Collection and its Fierce Cologne line (up to $ 100,000), suicide intervention and non-profit crisis prevention at the service of the LGBTQ community. The nonprofit is good, but using chiseled abs and an extremely tacky cologne to earn that initial profit is bad.
A bottle of 6.7 ounces of Fierce Eau de Toilette will cost you $ 138.
I can not speak for everyone, but I did not feel discriminated against by the ghastly community of the CBD. For people seeking a worldwide representation of cannabis-based products (this one also contains 5 milligrams of THC), you have this Plus Products Gummies, available exclusively in California.
Plus Products will donate $ 1 from each sale to the LGBT Center in San Francisco.
Few brands have been the subject of more criticism for their inability to protect the LGBTQ community this month than YouTube. The company, which has created a rainbow with its avatar on Twitter, has published a list of Documentaries on Pride this year he was criticized for refusing to remove YouTuber anti-gay targeting videos Stephen Crowder Carlos Maza. LGBTQ creators also accused the platform of not doing enough to reduce harassment.
For the month of pride this year, YouTube has promoted and supported three originals LGBTQ documentaries and made them available on the free side, funded by the platform's advertising.
If YouTube – or any of these brands, really wants to celebrate pride, it must better serve the LGBTQ community internally. Or at least be a little less corny.
If you want to talk to someone or if you have suicidal thoughts, send an SMS to Crisis text line at 741-741 or call it National suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. For international resources, this listing is a good place to start.
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This advice is based on the same operational principle: you want to feel better, you Need to do the work yourself, for yourself.
That's why some experts, like , a Toronto-based community organizer and researcher specializing in building intercultural bridges, is asking people to consider another form of compassion: community care.
Valerio has recently become viral for this included a quote from him highlighting the difference between personal care and community care. For Valerio, the difference between the two forms of empathy is night and day.
Shouting "caring for oneself" to people who really need "community care" is the way we fail. – Nakita Valerio
– Stephanie Tait (@StephTaitWrites) March 31, 2019
Unlike personal care, do not place the burden of compassion on a single person. In a telephone interview with Mashable, Valerio defined proximity care as "people determined to take advantage of their privilege of being for each other in different ways".
Yet this form of care is not totally disinterested, at least not in the long run.
"They (care providers) know that when they will also need care in the future, others will be there for them," said Valerio.
Community care involves more than one person. It can include two, three, even hundreds of people. You can practice community care in your personal life offline or even in digital spaces.
It's so much bigger and so much more important than a manicure.
The term community care is known in social movements and But you must still enter the dominant culture. The concept should not be difficult to translate: outreach care is essentially provided by one person for the benefit of other people in their lives. This may take the form of demonstrations, for which community care is better known, but also simple acts of interpersonal compassion.
We must stop pretending that concepts such as appeals, cancellations, personal care, and energy protection are not often individualistic, selfish, and capitalist notions veiled in so-called "awake" language.
– Ari C. (@lit_ari_ture) November 26, 2017
"Community care can look like a lot of different things," Valerio said. "This can be as simple as reaching out to someone when you just need to talk in. This can be someone who takes groceries for you or … someone. one who does the dishes and watches over your children while you are in mourning. "
Valerio likens community care to the extended family, where members are intimately connected to each other and regularly perform acts of compassion on their behalf.
"It's more than going to the opening of someone's art." It's about committing to being there for people, "says Valerio." It's about being there for people who do not take the first step, but to embrace philosophy of compassion and to apply it very intentionally. "
With the pursuit of interpersonal acts of kindness, which is an essential element of community care, there are also more structured versions. They can take different forms: neighborhood groups, common houses, support groups and non-profit organizations.
My personal care is organized. It does not give me rest, but gives me a goal. It does not give me peace, but it gives me a way to create justice. It does not let me look away, but it gives me a chance to fight.
– Jess Morales Rocketto (@JessLivMo) May 15, 2019
Patricia Omidian, for example, is an anthropologist and founding director of , which provides community wellness services to communities around the world. The Omidian practice is based on the principles of community care. For Omidian, community-based care is a particularly powerful form of care in marginalized, more collectivist than individualist communities. For example, in some communities in Afghanistan, Omidian found that she had to work with groups, not individuals, to reduce levels of domestic violence.
With regard to violence against women by other women in Afghanistan, Omidian said she needed to "really work at the family level" to change levels of violence. domesticated.
Valerio had similar experiences. It refers to the collective Muslim-Jewish community that she has built and which, among other things, helps individuals escape from their violent homes. Many women in the Valerio group have survived the violence themselves.
"We took the women out of their homes and put them in safe housing," says Valerio. "We will literally create a team of six women, pack their stuff, take them out, we will do all the things for each other too … We are a group that has done a remarkable job simply because we have defined the intention to eat together regularly. "
Valerio discovered the power of community care when she was struggling with postpartum depression. She turned not to one but to a community of doulas specializing in postpartum issues to help her cope with her trauma. In the middle of a crisis, Valerio acknowledged that personal care was not enough to do the real work of healing. Taking care of yourself was only a dressing for a much bigger problem. She needed others to survive.
Valerio's feelings are very understandable. Brian Wahl, PhD, is a science assistant at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and is a firm believer in a community care and support system, like Valerio's. For Wahl, minimizing social isolation and reaching out to a community for support is an essential part of mental health.
"We would never ask anyone else to manage other health problems," Wahl told Mashable during a phone interview. "Let's say you have a terrible case of pneumonia, there are systems and structures, put in place to help these things, mental health should not be different."
Wahl believes that to maximize wellness, people should receive community care from their government and their networks of friends. But not everyone has the chance to appreciate the solid circle of friends that Wahl considers essential to health.
"People have been questioned every few years about the number of close friends they have," Wahl said. "More and more, he fell and went down. is less than one. Most people do not have any very close friends. It's terrifying. Could you imagine not having close friends? Could you have the feeling of calling and talking? "
Wahl is careful not to blame the people themselves for their isolation. The reduction of social networks is a cultural problem. Building friendships requires emotional and sometimes financial resources, resources that many people simply can not afford to save.
Nevertheless, Wahl hopes that people will make the effort to develop meaningful friendship networks, able to provide local care in the future. Wahl's request is supported by show that having friends improves well-being and longevity.
"If you have the means and the time, you must give priority to finding these communities," said Wahl.
Unfortunately, says Wahl, many people have neither the means nor the time.
That's one of the reasons why so many people rely on their personal care – and part of the problem.
Taking care of yourself is above all an act of compassion towards oneself. And although it sounds good on paper, Valerio struggles with the current practice. Valerio is a Muslim woman. According to her experience, personal care can not heal or fully protect her community and herself.
"Personal care does not solve the systemic problem faced by people facing aggravated discrimination," Valerio said. "Maybe I will get a pedicure, but it will not stop, someone will come to ask me why I wear a hijab, I am a Muslim, we (Muslim women) can not leave our identity to the house when we go get our pedicures. "
Valerio takes care to note that community care is not enough to solve the structural oppression by itself and that there is no form of empty personal care. Personal care can not do much to reduce systemic inequalities ("Someone's bills will not be paid because they've swept the floor," says Valerio), but that can help improve the mood. Community care will not create a socialist utopia overnight.
Although he is a strong advocate of community-based care, like Valerio, Wahl does not want to devalue personal care entirely either. There are some forms of personal care, such as taking a , who have been proven to help improve his mood.
" is one of those underlying causes of depression, "says Wahl." So it depends a lot on the type of personal care you're talking about. The kind of personal care that people have advocated for me has not been a source of inspiration. "
Omidian, while concerned about personal care, also feels that community care is not possible without them.
"It's hard for me to say that community care is separate from personal care," Omidian said. "I work very hard with the international organizations to help the workers to take care of themselves so that they can carry out the humanitarian work (of community care)."
Nevertheless, Valerio believes that community care is a better foundation than personal care to build a more equitable society and healthier people.
"Community care is a better stepping stone (in court) than personal care," Valerio said. "It's that we do it together, we do it, we do it, we do it, and we try to survive in a system built against us." . "
It is a powerful care system. And while most examples of community care appear to occur in offline places – on the front lines of an event, in a shelter – there are also many examples of community care in the digital sphere.
It can be hard to imagine community care in digital spaces such as Twitter, Reddit, Facebook or even messaging apps. For some people, have become synonymous with trolling, harassment and toxicity. Social media is with antisocial behavior, fear and loneliness – remove the opposite of the whole community of care is supposed to be on.
Yet Valerio insists that community care is delivered in the digital sphere and at a very deep level. Valerio is personally experimenting with community-based care in WhatsApp, a messaging app particularly suited to small communities. As an encrypted application, gives users the privacy they need to provide care in the community while feeling safe. Valerio says that she knows that she can turn to her old WhatsApp group discussions to find kindness and empathy in difficult times.
"I have three or four different community groups on WhatsApp depending on the facets of my identity and my needs," Valerio said. "I have a group of Muslim mothers. I have a group of political activism. I have a group of ultra-safe psychological episodes … WhatsApp is the only one in the world. One of the oldest things that exists and yet it has real advantages In Facebook Messenger, voice notes are limited to one minute Voice notes (in WhatsApp) are longer You can send a longer and encrypted media. .. and everyone has it already, "she says. "In addition, WhatsApp allows you to make long distance calls for free! Some of my relatives live in the UK or Egypt."
Although WhatsApp may not be identified as a community care application, it certainly fulfills this function. There are many other apps and digital platforms that have the same goal – and that also do not have community care designation. There is , an app that connects people to volunteer opportunities in the nonprofit world. is similar, but allows users to post photos of their volunteer experiences and connect with other volunteers. provides the same function while allowing users to invite their own friends to volunteer. connects people who are blind or visually impaired with volunteers and company employees who want to help guide them. Volunteers can connect with .
Waiting, I users to crowdfund community projects for their neighborhood. is a platform designed to help neighbors share their belongings and keep materials out of landfills.
There are even fitness apps that provide community care functions. , for example, allows users to share their fitness results with their network of friends or, as GoTribe calls them, their "tribes". The trainers of the application have encouraged users to to improve their health.
Even with applications that fulfill these functions, Valerio is not convinced that community care as a movement or as an application will take off in the same way as personal care.
On the one hand, companies in the self-help industrial complex are represented by lifestyle brands such as Gwyneth Paltrow's GOOP. GOOP in the personal care and wellness market, selling fashionable products such as $ 190 aromatherapy . The is now estimated at $ 250 million.
But how do you monetize a friend who comes to your laundry when you are too sick to get up? How do you capitalize on a volunteer experience? For Valerio, the monetization of collective care goes against the core values of the practice.
"Community care is anti-capitalist," says Valerio. "What you do can not be monetized and often works outside the system … We still have these cultural myths about how we should be able to do it ourselves, which is why personal care is popular the solution is not marketable ".
Even though community care can not be monetized in the same way as personal care, it does not mean that they can not become more popular. The more people learn about community care, the more they tend to appear in everyday life, applications and other places in the digital sphere.
Wahl believes that governments can play a real role in the popularization and institutionalization of community-based care, even in societies as individualistic as ours.
"Many health systems do not address mental health in the same way as infectious diseases," Wahl said. "In the broadest sense, I think the government can use (community care) to solve some health problems."
Change is possible. It's true that outreach may not be as good as personal care, but it does not make it less important.
If you want to talk to someone or if you have suicidal thoughts, send an SMS to Crisis text line at 741-741 or call it National suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. For international resources, this listing is a good place to start.
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With its 22nd film, Marvel Cinematic Universe has finally reached some historic first: Avengers: End of the game is the first MCU film to feature a canonically gay character.
You'll find him early in the movie, attending a support group with Captain America and discussing with a discerning date recently with another man.
Game over director Joe Russo, who also portrayed the character on the screen, said Deadline the moment was "important" for him:
Representation is really important. It was important to us since we shot four of these movies, we wanted the gay characters to be somewhere in them. We thought that it was important that one of us play the movie, to ensure the integrity and show that it is so important to the filmmakers that one of them is. 39 between us represents that.
On the one hand, the fact that this character exists is an encouraging sign of progress in a franchise that remains mostly stubbornly late, taking 18 films to get its first non-white role and 21 to get to its first self-directed by women.
This character represents a step forward for this particular franchise, even if it is relatively small. And it's at least refreshing to see a character who is definitely gay – as opposed to the "exclusively gay moments" of recent movies such as The beauty and the Beast and Power Rangers, where the sexual orientations of the characters in question were left ambiguous, or the accursed well-that-can-said of Guardians of the galaxy.
More, Game over Director Anthony Russo (Joe's brother) pointed out in this same interview, although the moment may not be a big deal for some audiences, but for others.
"We have seen it even in countries where homosexuality is not free like here," he said. "It's actually one of the elements of these films that, I think, also resonates in some of the toughest places in the world."
Joe added, "As filmmakers of a huge franchise, we support you."
But on the other hand, the character verbally confirming that his sexual orientation appears to be the lowest bar to break through in 2019, 22 films for an incredibly lucrative franchise.
The character has no name, to our knowledge, and is never mentioned in the movie anymore. We are not talking exactly about the new face of the franchise here.
We can hope that what we are discussing is the first of a lot steps to the queer representation in the MCU. In the same interview, Joe said that the character had arrived "at a perfect time, because one of the most compelling elements of Marvel Universe's evolution is his interest in diversity."
Marvel Studios President Kevin Feige confirmed last year That at least two LGBTQ characters would come in the series – "the two you saw and the ones you did not see," he teased at the time. (Fans have speculated that Tessa Thompson's Valkyrie might be the existing queer character, although the studio did not say that much.)
Production Manager Victoria Alonso seemed even more enthusiastic about an LGBTQ superhero. "The world is ready, the world is ready," she said Variety to the Captain Marvel first earlier this year.
Of course, promising a better homosexual representation is one thing. In fact, to deliver is another, and only time will tell how the studio reacts in this regard.
So, here's for you, guys from the random support group in Avengers: End of the game, to have finally crossed this line – and here is hoping that even if you were first, you will be far from the last.
This is the first time Converse has already had a specific trans sneaker.
The trans-specific sneakers currently at retail for $ 80. Customers can also customize their own Rainbow Pride shoes and add a Trans Pride style.
Regardless of what you think of corporate participation in Gay Pride, it is a huge step forward symbolically. Supporters of the trans community have long complained that gay and lesbian people dominate the LGBTQ movement.
Recognizing the trans community as a distinct community – although just as worthy of the sneaker – is emblematic of a larger cultural shift.
Transgender people are clearly in the public spotlight and they can show it (if they are their thing) on their feet.
Twitter was largely excited about the move.
This Twitter user may have said it better.
Fuckin converse put the Trans flag on shoes like ….. well I'll buy them, stupid brand, you tilt badly in front of capitalism
– 🌻 Thank you gay dad (@Darius_lives) April 19, 2019
Good pride incredibly early, everyone!
I know it's hard to believe, especially when we consider the path of destruction that our genre reveals that hysteria has left behind. In 2017, a explosives triggered a wildfire and caused $ 8 million worth of damage. Gender-related revelations have caused ankle fractures and . No one is safe – neither are people forced to watch these parties, nor, more seriously, are children forced to live up to the very sexist expectations of their parents.
But not all gender-related revelations of revelation are so normative. In recent years, some type of party revealing the genre has become viral for a very good reason: they are led by and for transgender people.
Although they can mimic the form of a traditional and regressive genre revealer, they have nothing to do with them. And it's a beautiful thing.
When Heather Lundberg Green is Adrian Brown came to his trans neither Green nor she knew how to tell other members of their family. Going out as trans was "not the kind of thing you tell grandparents via Facebook," Green told Mashable during a phone interview. Not to tell people involved risks.
"People thought I had three children," Green said. "I only have two, or people thought my daughter was dead at some point … I just wanted to tell my friends and family:" It's great. "And I choose joy, acceptance and support."
Green and she are exploring ways to tell people massively while continuing to elicit an affirmative response. In the end, both agreed on the idea of a gender revelation. Instead of a traditional revelation, where would you expect sex from your future child, Brown – who was 19 at the time of her transition – would publicly announce her sex, on her 20th birthday, with a photo shoot and a party.
The reversal of power was clear and transformative.
"I thought you were crazy," Brown said about his mother's initial idea. "There is no chance that this is a good idea! It is the biggest taboo ever recorded for transgender people."
Once Green and Brown began formulating their subversive plan for a gender revelation, Brown felt more confident.
"I've seen so many genre revelations on Facebook and online," Green said. "And when you see a party revealing the genre, you say," Congratulations! "So I thought it would be a fun way to bring people in."
The family gathered to take pictures, with blue balloons and other traditional signifiers. Green posted the Do not expect much from a reaction beyond family and friends. In less than 24 hours, however, they had been shared more than 10,000 times, according to Green. picked up the picked up the
Shortly after posting, Brown said, flocked to all over the world. I was surprised by the way they were raising most of them ("I was expecting more, much more hate," he said) and how much other trans people have clearly been displaced.
The couple had drawn in a real emotion. Unlike the other sexes, it did not become viral for triggering a major fire or leaving a crocodile to take off.
It became viral for the most radical reasons – because it was basically nice.
Brown's revelation was not the first of its kind.
In 2017, Corey Walker, a 27-year-old Floridian trans, became viral after his friends started his own revealing (trans) party. Walker had organized a similar party for his transsexual partner years ago.
"I thought it would be a nice surprise for him to go home after consulting his doctor to get his first testosterone vaccine," Walker said. Metro UK at the time
These revelations share an essential emotional element that causes them to become viral. Traditional sex reveals the celebration of predetermined gender and assigned to a doctor. Parents do not ask their fetuses how they identify – they take all the gender information provided by their doctor and then assign it to their unborn children. In contrast, Walker and Brown reveal a celebration of self-determination of sex and gender.
It's a vital contrast.
The consequences of this reversal are profound, both for the trans population and for cis people struggling to live under a gender binary.
The physical consequences of the genre reveal that the parties (massive fires, blows to the face) are familiar to anyone who has seen a viral video in recent years. The cultural consequences are, in many ways, more damaging in the long run. These revelations send a strong message about who defines the genre and what the assigned genre means.
"Gender revelations reveal that parties reinforce gender stereotypes and expectations that send messages to young people that constitute guidelines, requirements and limitations for only two genres," a. Furuya, head of youth programs at GLSEN, an organization that defends the rights of LGBTQ students, told Mashable by email. "This message is harmful in that it limits the possibilities and autonomy available on their identity."
The problem is twofold. It's not just that the genre reveals that it uses an outdated definition of the genre. It is that they rely on exhausted symbols and codes. The boys are coded in blue and the girls in pink. Gifts are often distributed accordingly. The entire operation is a regressive regression.
After all, gender revelations can only be celebrations because people continue to attach such intense emotional significance to the genre. For many parents, having a boy means something globally different than a girl's seismically. In this paradigm, biology, not culture or behavior, determines the type of personality. Parents pass on their gender-specific expectations to their children.
The entire operation is a regressive regression.
The revelations related to gender are only relevant to a population that believes that there are two sexes and that they are fundamentally and biologically distinct. It's a destructive tale, and that seems out of place in an increasingly bizarre and trans-friendly society.
This did not, however, slow down the success of the parties revealing the genre. Furuya is not surprised that the country seems to be suffering from extreme nostalgia sexist.
"In the era of social media, gender-revealing parties are seen as a way to" creatively "share an old tradition," Furuya said. "In reality, they subconsciously reinforce dangerously outdated stereotypes – like" pink is for girls and blue is for boys "- many in our society have already moved away – people who are not negatively affected by roles of gender should not think about the effects of these traditions – but everyone should really stop thinking about their effects. "
Maybe people should stop running sex parties. Or maybe they should be inspired by Adrian Brown and Corey Walker and let young people design themselves.
Brown and Walker gave an incredible example to trans people looking to celebrate while addressing large groups of people. The revelations are subversive, festive, affirmative and fun. They communicate humor and, by extension, security. These emotions are essential to virality and, for some people, to acceptance.
Even if they mimic traditional revelations, neither the Brown nor Walker parties reproduce the traditional pattern. Brown has not been forced to use blue balloons because I have publicly identified the man. It was a personal choice, as it should be for anyone planning to come.
Do you want to plan your own revelation? Use the color of balloons you want. Post photos of the event on Facebook or not. The central design of a revealing (trans) genre is that it rests on a personal choice and not on a cultural predetermination.
The revealing (trans) gender parties are not for everyone either. If you are planning to organize a party for a friend in transition, ask him if he wants it or not. And for the sake of God, do not party by surprise. One of the worst things you can do to a person who is trying to publicly announce his or her own gender identity, often after a long period of personal exploration, is to predetermine something else for her.
Just do the right thing and ask.
Consider not attending the traditional gender revelation celebrations
In the meantime, if you are an adult, avoid going to traditional genre revelation nights and rephrase how you talk about gender identity with young people.
"Some good practices in gender dialogue with young people give them space to navigate freely and without judgment," said Furuya. "You do not have to be an expert in gender terminology or best practices to be a caring parent or caregiver – for many young people, knowing that you will continue to love, protect and care for them. supporting, minimizing serious mental health risks, allowing them to focus on important things like school and social engagement with their peers. "
This attitude resonates. Brown and her mother recently participated in an event on the International Day of Transgender Visibility. They proposed to "those who wish" to reveal the photoshoot stand of the genre (trans) genre. The booth was based on the same basic principles as Furuya's: being judgment-free (Brown and Green never asked participants to reveal their sex) and supporting everyone who took a photo.
The booth was extremely popular. People carried signs "The future is non-binary" and played with blue and pink "sexed" balloons that did not match their gender assigned at birth.
"Everyone was so happy to have the opportunity," Brown said.
It was a party for all who needed it. There were so many people there. There will be so much more to eat.